Three words can reveal a lot about A/E/C managers and principals.

This phrase says a lot about your leadership style.

🚩When new hires hear this response, they often feel discouraged. It can be frustrating and even make them feel inadequate.

Saying 'figure it out' can make people feel undervalued, especially when they’re trying to learn how things work.

Newcomers to our industry want to understand the basics so they don't have to keep asking the same questions.

➡️Where can I find this?
➡️Could you please clarify the punch list for me?
➡️Is this the latest documentation?

Leaders should recognize that new team members want to learn, do well, and meet expectations.

If someone still needs a lot of help after a reasonable amount of time, there may be a bigger issue.

But in the first few months, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed.

There’s a learning curve.

Responding with 'figure it out' comes across as passive-aggressive.

It can negatively impact company culture, team morale, and project results.

When leader...

If you’ve ever veered off the success path and detoured into “Pity City,” there’s a powerful, yet simple phrase to get back on track. 

➡️Nine short words. That’s it. 

When I’m in the middle of a struggle, rough patch, or “woe is me” moment, I mumble these words to myself. 

Sometimes out loud. Sometimes in my head. 

🔷Yep, I turn to a 9-word phrase that always helps me refocus and reframe. 

These words remind me of the fortitude, power, and strength I have to persevere. 

Many women, especially those in construction, navigate a litany of challenges that test their physical, emotional, and mental states every single day. 

👷‍♀️Our observance of Women's History Month reminds us of the pioneering women who have shaped our industry. And those who continue to work and lead in the contruction field. 🥇

Regardless of your gender, my nine words…stay with it, stay with it, stay with it…reminds us of our collective purpose and why we do what we do. 

You got this! 

I’m seeing a recurring leadership risk inside A/E/C firms right now.

Strong project managers get promoted; their technical performance is consistent, but something quietly breaks down in high-stakes conversations with clients, principals, or internal teams. 🚩

The risks are higher, and expectations shift from expertise to influence—subtle but critical.

Leaders sense it early.

The hesitation, the over-explaining, and the missed cues are warning signs. 

These moments erode trust and can affect a leader’s credibility—even when intentions are good.😮

The challenge isn’t confidence or personality.

➡️The real issue is conversational judgment. It’s a skill that’s rarely measured until it’s already had an impact on results. 

Typically, it's a negative impact that results in frustration and lost bids.

🔷This month, I’m opening a small number of private Leadership Conversation Audits for firm leaders who want clarity around a specific emerging or newly promoted leader—and what to correct, coach, or recalibr...

Many A/E/C firms point to recruiting as their main challenge.

But is that truly the core issue?

Here's the real issue: Retention suffers because expectations are unclear and development is fragmented. That’s what’s draining your talent.

The signals become obvious once you look more closely:

🚩New hires struggle to ramp up.

🚩Mid‑level staff feel stuck.

🚩Managers spend more time correcting than coaching.

My nephew and niece, 26 and 32, both started new jobs recently in completely different fields. 

Each prefers to work independently. Both are very smart. 

Each told me they've asked for help finding project info. 

Each said their boss barked, "Find it yourself." 

More than once.

This isn't leadership or coaching. 

It isn't a culture that welcomes smart people.

This isn't about coddling younger staff; it's about coaching and knowledge transfer.

People leave jobs for clarity—a clear path, clear coaching, clear expectations—not just for higher pay.

People don’t quit hard work.